So, as I promised Sarah on her blog, I am following suit in making a point to keep you all up to date (I know you all wanted to know, right?) about what has been off the book shelf around here. Until recently I didn't make a lot of personal reading time, but lately I have missed it so badly, it had to become a priority. God must have known that, because suddenly I seem to be able to fit it in, right after the newly discovered time for personal Bible time. Hmmm.
Anyway, what I most recently finished reading was a non-fiction book called Sheet Music:Uncovering the Secrest of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage, by Dr. Kevin Leman. I think that the physical relationship in marriages, especially Christian ones, are often easy to push aside, and yet are of so, so much importance. Preparation for a good physical relationship is often overlooked in Christian pre-marital counselling, which is a shame. Our society has made it easy to be very confused about what is actually expected of us in the physical part of Christian relationship as so many immoral relationships pervade in modern media. There are very few examples of a solid Christian marriage on TV, in the movies and in mainstream writing (I actually think this is one of the reasons I am so suddenly enamored with 19 Kids and Counting. The Duggars have a Christian home I would love to be adopted into. Or just to have them as mentors. Wow.). So, I picked up this book after I decided I was tired of fighting myself as to what was expected of me as a wife-and that after several years of marriage.
I am not going to go into Dad's and my bedroom relationship-that is for us to know about. I will say that this book is a must-read for any engaged or newlywed couple, as well as those who are old-hand at it all and want a refresher course in a Christian relationship. I was relieved to read a lot of the book, and honestly, if my husband would read anything other than car parts catalogs, I think he would glean a lot out of it. The main thing-we are normal. Everything this good Dr. talked about had me agreeing or going "Oh my goodness, that's us!" and his suggestions for change and improvement have helped already.
The book was an easy and fairly quick read. There are parts that may be a bit much for anyone who is keeping themselves pure for their wedding night-it may be something to save for the week after if you think you may get too sqeamish or want the surprise of your lifetime, lol, but he also has a chapter or two that he specifically recommends reading before you are married, and then recommends the rest of the book for after.
I tend to be wary of Christian writing, as, unfortunately, a lot of it tends to be sub-par, for whatever reason. This was not the case, and if I am going to read about bedroom relationships, honestly, I only want information coming from a Christian background. There is too much misinformation out there, really on both sides of the coin, and it can be hard to find a reliable source. So, the book was good. :)